(And by the way, there is NOTHING shameful about placing a baby for adoption!) The next person might shame that same woman if she chose abortion. Your statement sounds like you’re shaming women for making a life choice that is in the best interest of herself and her child. And believe me, women do place their babies for adoption and don’t regret it. Just because certain words or phrases don’t bother you doesn’t mean they don’t affect anyone. If everyone would care about our fellow humans this much, the world would be such a better place. It’s about choosing words that build our children up, not beat them down. So she made the hardest decision of her life and CHOSE to let us be your Mom and Dad”. So if choosing three little words changes the way a child feels about themselves, is it really going to hurt anyone to try to use the sensitive version, the version that doesn’t make a child feel like they were a mistake for their whole life? My response to my son was “she loved you so much that she wanted to see you have the kind of life that she knew she couldn’t give you back then. But when your child comes home in tears and asks you why he/she was unwanted or “given up”, that hurts you to your core. But really, none of that matters because I’m an adult and I can brush off someone else’s insensitive words. There IS a difference, just like there’s a difference in a sperm donor and a dad. I had to have that conversation with my son once because someone at his school asked him why his “mom gave him up”. You see, sometimes children hear “given up” and translate or equate that to “unwanted”. While his biological mother may have technically “given him up”, that terminology isn’t as troublesome to her as it is to the child as he/she grows up.
Please allow me to fill you in on this subject. number of episodes at the end of the current season or of the last season aired. Maybe, because we sheltered that person with our language, they went through with the decision that they ultimately regretted immensely.Īdam. Maybe that feeling makes them realize they actually dont want to go through with it. That feeling helps that person understand the gravity of the decision they are about to make. Maybe saying “give up their baby” adds some guilty feelings to prospective parent, but that is NOT necessarily a bad thing. It gives me clarity and offers weight to my decisions. Does reflecting on that feeling suck? Yes, but thats A GOOD THING. Guess what though? That is exactly how I felt, like I came out of somewhere and no im not hiding. Thats like me saying “I came out to my parents” and someone being upset that gays dont “come out” they “inform”. Maybe someone somewhere feels guilty about “giving up a baby” less so then they would about “placing their baby” but thats not a good reason to pepper on some outrage. My god really? At what point are we just not allowed to use words anymore? I understand certain words or phrases have different connotations, but this one really doesn’t. From powerhouse vocalist Josh Groban to hitmaker Richard Marx, lets take a look back at all the shows most melodious guest stars.
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